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The Substance of style: How to be an Olympic Gladiator in a suit

10 Aug

When I was a little girl I knew I was an artist, singer, and fashion designer early on.  Cartooning, a heavy vibrato, and obsessive development of my crayon-infused design portfolio were dead giveaways.

Growing up in a family of activists in an impoverished community left little room for me to explore and embrace the depths of substantive style and artistry.

I get it now.

The way you appear can and should be not only a celebration of who you are, but of purpose, of life and the privilege of rising again, able to clothe yourself in your daily armor.  We’re used to thinking of warriors in steel head-to-toe suits.

Well.

If you’ve been watching the Olympics you’re aware some folks are gladiators in pink sparkles.  Others in speedos.  Others in catsuits, flowery leotards, shorts and tanktops with super-legs to run on.

Olympic competition is their purpose.  They gear up accordingly.

For some of us, our purpose may be being changing lives through business, community work, law, medicine, writing, leadership, health, family, art, or education.  There is no higher or lesser calling: Whatever is your unique purpose is equally important.

For all of us, that means we have to prepare and gear up daily just as an Olympian does.  During competition, every detail from hair, grooming, footwear and clothing is an intentional choice made to enhance performance, optimize competitive edge and advance toward the goal.

I caught glimpses of the open water swim this morning.  Certain my purpose doesn’t involve marathon swimming in green water.  More power to them.

It does however, involve using my voice, written and spoken words, art, style, personality, dance, and life to eradicate injustice by spreading true, Godly love.

Mmmkay.

So how the heck do I suit up for that?

For starters I (like we all do or should), make sure to look good, defined as healthy, well-groomed, appropriate, intentional, comfortable, and expressively, uniquely, you.

I also work to stay physically and spiritually fit, avoid sickness and showcase my style in whatever arena I’m privileged to work in.

Showcasing our style is our version of gearing up, the same way an Olympian would.

Here’s how you suit up:

1. How are you feeling? In pain, happy, sad, determined, excited, angry, alone, tired, hurt… This will affect your performance.  Acknowledge it and if it’s negative, think about how that can be corrected or used to your advantage.  This should show in your gear.

 

2. What is the event?  Whether it’s time with the family, a political meeting, housework, festival, formal dinner, performance, casual work, exercise, salsa dance, shopping, vacation, or sick time… Know what you’re gearing up to do.

 

3. How will it impact your body?  Carefully consider your unique needs in that moment, whether it’s a sore left ankle, particular body type, injured arm, or newly toned limbs.  Also consider if you’ll be standing or sitting for long periods, being physically active, in front of a large audience, in extreme weather, etc..

 

4. Who will be there?  Olympians dress and behave completely differently in practice with coach than they do at finals.  Think about who will be around.  Bankers, friends, strangers, preachers, neighbors, kids…  Practice gear is different than show uniform.

 

5. How do you suit up?  

  • Pick a general type:  Olympic practice, warm-up, competition, award ceremony or interview?  Start by deciding what kind of outfit you’ll need, whether casual, formal, business casual, exercise, beach, cocktail, or other.  Focus on that part of your wardrobe.  No use sifting through business suits for a beach party…  Necessarily.

 

  • Choose a Base:  Given your feelings, event, needs and audience, start with the base which covers you completely: Either a combo of shirt/ sweater with shorts/ pants/ skirt, a jumpsuit, or dress.  Don’t wear a short tight dress if you need to be active, and don’t feel like self-adjusting constantly.  Wear a base that accommodates how you feel, where you going, what your body needs and who will see you.

Black dress with cork wedges and tan wrap for a work presentation.

 

  • Choose a layer: Even in the warmest climates weather shifts.  Whether you need to adjust for increasing heat or cold, add a weather layer.  This might be a heavy coat and sweater, light cardigan or breezy wrap.  It doesn’t have to be neutral either.  High-contrast colors, especially with bright solids are fun.  Lay these out together so you can see colors and fabrics overlapping.

Layered a denim jacket and wraps over a long dress with knee-high boots for a (Cali) winter stroll.

 

  • Select shoes: With that in mind, select your shoes based on feelings, needs, event, and audience. Maybe you’ll be sitting all day but broke your toe.  Choose wisely.  Again, don’t be afraid to go bold.  Shoes do not have to match your belt and bag perfectly.  They just have to work with your other outfit elements.  And make you smile when you glimpse your feet. :)

Festive. :)

 

  • Choose a purse:  Keeping the 1-4 in mind, pick something that accents or blends with your outfit. Be mindful of the size, utility and look.  Chain link straps on hot summer days are dangerous.  Sequined bags in board meetings are distracting.  Always, choose to express yourself.
  • Accessorize: Now for the extra fun.  With your outfit so far in mind, pick jewelry and hair accessories to express how you feel.  Olympic synchronized swimmers and gymnasts accessorize with makeup to accent their face, an expressive part of performance.  Others die hair, wear unique haircuts, tattoos or jewelry.

Vibrant scarf, bold necklace and chunky earrings accent a flowy white dress for work.

 

  • Accessory selection:  Most important, accessories draw attention to what’s displaying them, so know what complements you.  Be risky.  Wear all black with bright, heavy layers of colorful jewelry.  Contrast colors.  Layer up rings or bracelets.  Wear a bright flower or sparkling band in your hair.  Be delicate and sweet or bold and powerful.

 

Other tips and encouragement:

Shopping tips

Clothing etiquette

Wardrobe basics

Lightening up the mood at work on a big deadline day.

Have a beautiful, awesome day being YOU!

The substance of style: Clothing etiquette

16 Jul

Talking about looking good, meaning: Healthy, well-groomed, appropriate, intentional, comfortable, and expressively, uniquely, you continues today with more encouragement and some helpful guidelines.

I’d like to think like all art, fashion is one that isn’t always about convention or rules.  That said, some things work and others just don’t.

Here are some rules to follow when it comes to fashion, and why:

No apathy:  Who says, “Well no one’s going to see me anyway, why worry about what I have on?”  You will see you.  Skipping showers isn’t healthy, nor is refusing to think about what you wear.  Plus, fashion is like a wearable toy.  You can play with the texture of the fabric, the flash of jewelry, the curl of hair, sheen of a wrap.

For my 30th birthday party, I chose a dress that was comfortable to dance in, and would look stunning through the night: A wrinkle-proof metallic fabric, with lots of fun design detail… Like pockets!

Speaking of toys, I have to be careful wearing certain shoes lest I stare down at my feet, distracted.  Anyway.  No need to overdress all the time.  But certainly don’t make the mistake of devaluing yourself in the process.  Fashion and style is a very healthy celebration of you.  Why bother grooming and caring for your body and spirit if you’re going to clothe yourself in garments of anything other than love?

No knees on stage:  I began singing at an early age and my dear friend and longtime choir conductor told me to wear something onstage that didn’t show my knees.  It maketh the sense:  Stages are typically at or above eye level, which means the odds of you showing more than a knee cap are pretty high.  No wonder the advice stuck.

I first wore this dress during a high school performance: No knees on stage.

Yes, a lot of pop stars currently perform in their underwear.  The rule stands.

Audience:  Most of us don’t just talk to anyone we see without a basic attempt to know who we’re addressing.  Why? Because it’s impossible to communicate with a void.  Fashion is an expression.  Consider not only what you are saying in what you wear, but also who you’re expressing it to, and how they might receive it.

Wearing a mini-dress with skirt, flat loafers and layered wraps for a casual workday into evening dinner in Italy with colleagues.

Are the sweat pants the best choice for your interview with the law firm?  Is the flowy salsa dress the best choice for feeding the homeless?  The low cut top and short shorts ideal for church? Mini dress and heels best for the grassy picnic?  Each of these choices says something.  Be aware, and choose what best suits your purpose.

Matching:  I say, there are only two times to think about matching.  With monochromatic outfits.  And shoes.  Always awkward when those don’t pair up properly, I think.

Red, white, black, denim, and flip flops: It works.

Don’t wear five different blacks.  Or whites.  Or greens.  Five different textures maybe.  But colors should be consistent.   Otherwise, choose bold and different colors.  Like red and turquoise.  Purple and lime green.  Brown and orange.   When you wear a mix of colors, consider anchoring them by pairing them up.  Blue shoes with a red dress?  Add a blue ring so it seems intentional.

Highlights:  As in life, anything you give attention to or feed grows, appears bigger.  Don’t waste time worrying about hiding perceived flaws real or imagined.  Instead, highlight the great things you love about yourself, whether that’s your right eyeball, legs, kneecaps (not on stage), left toe, arms, or earlobes.

This mini-dress with a flowing, draped bodice highlights the legs without calling attention to tummy, arms, or back.

Celebrate that.  If you’re purposeful about growing and developing as a person, you’ll address the flaw when you’re meant to, by fixing it or accepting it.

Selective exposure: When it is appropriate to be less covered up based on your audience, you can help curb an overwhelming eye-assault by carefully choosing what will or won’t be exposed.

Wearing a miniskirt with sweater to a karaoke bar (stage-free.)

For example, if you highlight your shape in something form-fitting, you might choose a higher neckline, or lower hemline.  Fashion is a dance of the eyes and senses for the wearer and observer:  You wouldn’t Argentine tango with any old stranger.

Yes, the dress was racy being both backless and short. Balance: A neckline that came clear up to my collarbone.

Keep that in mind when choosing what you expose.

Comfort:  Style is about love and self-care.  Willful discomfort Does. Not. Com. Pute.  To be comfortable, consider your environment and activity.    Will it be hot, cold, or unpredictable?  Will you be standing, sitting, walking or dancing for long periods?  Will you need to be physically active and get a little dirty?

Jeans and a dark, alluring top meant I was ready to help setup for a party, and to enjoy the event in style through the night.

I honestly used to be the stilettos everywhere girl.  No more.  Thanks to a football injury (rather heroically sustained might I say), I can’t punish my extremities like I used to.

Carry stilettos if you must.

Above all else, the number one fashion rule to follow:

Aim to express who you are and how you feel, in your own style.  Every day.

Are you feeling somber and focused?  Wear a dark-toned, fitted outfit with angular or metallic accessories.

Fun, and high-spirited?  Wear bright printed colors in fabrics that move.  Accent with colorful accessories.

Enjoy!!!

Shopping tips and wardrobe basics coming up next.

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