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Habitual Thinking: A fruitful mind feeds on fruit.

4 Apr

An old(ish) Adam Sandler movie, of all things, got me inspired to write about: Habitual thinking and how life-changing it can be to simply change the way you think;  How important rest is; How rest influences what we do when we’re not resting.

Now it’s time for practical steps.

Trust me, everyone needs to change their thinking habits.  Every day.  First of all, most of us have a lifetime worth of bad habits built in.  That means we’ve trained our minds to work wrong for decades.

How our minds work: In my high school physics class our professor had us build Rube Goldberg machines.  It was awesome.  You basically setup a small(ish) machine that does a simple household thing like turning off a light.  But it starts with a single object that goes through a series of crazy domino effects. Ultimately, the object, once it’s finished bouncing, flaming, steaming and bopping around, causes the simple household thing to be done.

This is basically how our minds work: We take one thing in to get us thinking (image/movie/book/conversation/etc.) and a lot of different things happen in a chain reaction to produce an outcome (feeling/ action/ speech etc.)  But the way we think, our habits are based on whatever life handed us.

Yikes.

So typically, we all have maybe a few of these thinking machines: Us at our best, us at our worst, and us on an average day.  Those are our habitual thought patterns, or autopilot space.  And we use them automatically, because they’re convenient and we literally don’t have to think about it.

But let’s say those machines or habitual thoughts are causing problems, like emitting poisonous gas… Or horrible ideas?  Or self-sabotage, self-defeat?

Your mind should produce fruit, not waste:

Like our digestive system, what we put or allow into our mind has an effect.  Depending on what we eat or drink, we may gain weight, have an allergic reaction, become intoxicated, energized, sick… Or healthier, more fit.

Depending on the information and concepts we feed our mind, we may become heavy-minded or react badly to the point of being uncomfortable…  We may malfunction and get out of touch with reality, have racing thoughts, or even a mental breakdown however minor or major… Or become more joyful, more at peace, clear, brilliant.

With our digestive system our organs are pretty much always going to do the same thing with food and drink: Help our bodies sift through what we put into it and pass out waste.  We have to produce bodily waste and we can’t change that.

A fruitful mind feeds on fruit:

But our minds are different.  We can change the way our mind works so we never produce waste.

We don’t have to let in anything that creates a waste byproduct.

We don’t have to turn anything into waste once it’s let in.

What we take in matters a lot.  What our mind does with it once it’s taken in matters even more.  If you’ve ever had a bad day that seems to start from the moment you wake up, or been swallowed by grief, you know exactly what I mean.  Everything, no matter how extremely wonderful it is, will appear opposite because of your mindset.

That’s what happens all day every day when your mind is wired to produce waste instead of fruit.

Rewiring it isn’t hard, but it does take persistence.

Mind-food:

The music, lyrics, TV shows, movies, articles, facebook and twitter info, people, conversations, books and gatherings we let in are all literally food for thought.  So what’s in your mind diet?  Why?  If it isn’t full of encouragement, honesty, optimism, you’ve opted into the McDonald’s version of food for thought.  It will not supersize your mind.

I know we’re passively fed information through advertisements, media, and our environment constantly but we don’t have to be.  Exercise some control over what you’re exposed to so the balance shifts positively, for just a day.  Feel the difference.  Keep it up.

The world seems full of terrible tragedies, hurt, and pain, yes.  But it’s really full of love, inspiration, joy, overcoming and miracles.  That’s not what we’re fed by the news, talk shows, music, or movies… Or even, sometimes, our friends and family.

You deserve to be uplifted every second of every day.  To be told how amazing and wonderful you are.  To believe how capable, and powerful you are.  To be fearless.  Unafraid of failure.  To be shown new and inspiring ways to be better, bigger, a more awesome you than you already are.

If you feel repelled by those things, why?

It’s just you.  You can fight it, but it’ll still be the reality of who you are.

Love on yourself.

Begin the fruitful process of changing your thought habits by changing your mind-fuel.  Then we’ll talk about making sure our thoughts always produce fruit.

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Never alone: Always in love.

14 Feb

HeartRomance begins with you.

Love on yourself today and everyday, so your relationship reflects healing and wholeness now and in the future.

Relationships are not two people completing each other.  They are two hearts reflecting two spirits, enhanced.  So the condition of your spirit is magnified.

If it isn’t right alone, it will just be worse with someone else.

Relationships are not two people using themselves up in an attempt to offer fleeting earthly symbols of love for each other.  They are two friends, walking, running, dancing, resting, and stumbling together down the path of life, learning, changing, loving, and drinking in the glory as they go.

If the journey isn’t more important than the destination you’ll end up attached and lonely all at once.

So to everyone every day, who celebrates love with the simple act of thinking, nourishing, cleansing, smiling, caring, changing, listening, giving, feeling, trying…

For themselves, others and the world especially when these, the easiest things seem hardest to do and at that moment for that reason, matter most…

Thank you.

I love you.

‘Cause you’re alive and that means you’re worthy of it.

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Problem perspective: Relax and let challenges show off how awesome you are.

12 Feb

Problem perspective:  Relax and let challenges show off how awesome you are. 

A couple weeks ago, my awesome boyfriend shared his most recent, rather horrifying audition experience.  Mind you, I say he’s awesome not only because we’re all best friends forever and such mush…

He’s truly one of those people who just shines, especially when stuff gets truly dark.

Por ejemplo.

He’s talking about this crazy audition, and as he’s sharing the tale there’s nothing but peace, stillness and mild amusement in his attitude.

Apparently this audition was a hot mess, and the people running it were wildly flustered, way behind schedule.  He described how much he really wanted to just take the time to soothe their nerves, how frustrated he was that there’s not enough space for that in the audition process, and how encouraging he was anyway.

Yes, mind you: He’s the actor trying to book the job and he was more at ease than the casting directors were, wanting to help them out.

Then, he describes how the actual audition was rather clumsily setup: He and the other actor were to read into a camera from cue cards… That were in the opposite direction from the lens (the perfect set up for a tennis-match read).  And the cards didn’t show which actor was to read which line.

Unfazed, he plunged into his encouragement-fused audition, becoming a tad confused when the actor portraying his wife in the audition stumbled over the words.

He quickly realized from her hesitation and heavy accent, English wasn’t her first language.  Yep.  No matter: He turned up the charm, encouraging her as well…

And booked the job.

That entire mess could easily have contributed to the mindset of defeat, prideful judgment, or any number of other things…

Instead, because of who he is, and where he draws his peace and strength from, it was just another opportunity to shine, simply by being himself.

So today, I share another lesson learned:

Be careful of what you perceive to be a problem in your life.

The reality is, every challenge you face is a chance for you to overcome it.  And in overcoming it, a chance to show just how much more awesome you are in victory than you were before you faced that challenge.

Glory to glory.

The problems in our lives are God’s way of taking the spotlight into His hands and rewriting the script to show a glimpse of the greatness in you no ordinary audition can uncover.

Let Him work.

“The greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it.”

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Temptation ain’t coercion. If you’re tempted it’s because there was a desire inside you for it in the first place.

31 Jan

Recently I shared about the enemy within, and how dangerous it is to live in denial.
It’s a weak, disadvantaged position to deny and confuse what temptation really is, and approach it as though we’re helplessly forced into something we want no part of… Instead of masterfully commanding our lives like the rulers of the Earth we are born to be.
So, to be clear:
Tempt: To entice to do wrong by promise of pleasure or gain.

Coerce: To restrain or dominate by force.

I hate avocado.  A thousand perfect avocados won’t tempt me.  I could be coerced to eat one.  And I’d still hate avocados.
I do love chocolate.  The perfect chocolate soufflé will be darn tempting.  I’d have to be coerced not to eat it.  My family history of diabetes does indeed cause me to restrain myself.

We can only be tempted by what we already want.  Knowing something is bad for you doesn’t mean your heart won’t desire it.  Which isn’t a huge deal when it comes to food preference.

But there are things in our lives that are a very big deal, that can kill us if we don’t master them.  We can’t master anything if we don’t know what we’re dealing with.

It’s dangerous to confuse temptation for coercion.

Temptation is attractive, pulling you toward something you want.  Coercion is combative, forcing you to do something against your will.  These are two completely different challenges with different solutions: One within you, the other without.

Temptation is solved by finding and fixing whatever’s broken inside that makes us want what isn’t good for us.  Coercion is solved by identifying the threat and either staying the heck away from it or fighting back.

It’s dangerous to think that because your mind knows something your heart wants is wrong, you don’t really want it.  You cannot be forced to desire or do something you actually want to do: You are willing and complicit.

Responding to that in confusion is more dangerous than the external attacks you face, where you really do have to fight back.  Confused, you’ll respond with a losing strategy that weakens you at the same time it strengthens your wrongful desire.

Hot mess.

That’s what happens when you just face the temptation and resist it, or escape, running in the opposite direction without dealing with the root problem:  Why you want something bad for you.  Ultimately, resisting or avoiding just makes the problem worse.

Only as upright as your circumstances, you’ll still want it, but now you’re playing games to sidestep landmines.

That is the losing game of avoiding temptation: I just won’t go near such-and-such, won’t buy blah-blah-blah, won’t do blankety-blank… You can’t win because the problem is not it.  It’s you.  Wanting it.  And playing games with it can actually deepen its hold over you.

No one wants to hurt themselves.

The reality is, if something is broken inside of you, that brokenness will war with the truth like a sinister fun-house mirror, presenting reality as a fantasy.

That’s why you’ll believe temptation won’t really hurt you.

  • No overweight person wants to gain weight.  Brokenness will show you weight gain as a self-indulgent, orgasmic and sumptuous gift of nourishment.
  • No married person wants to get a divorce.  Brokenness will show you divorce as a once-in-a-lifetime secret sexual fantasy that will fuel desire for your spouse.
  • No drug abuser wants to overdose.  Brokenness will show you overdosing as a sweetly spiraling surrender into bliss.
  • No violent person wants to end up in the hospital.  Brokenness will show you fatal injury as righteous revenge exacted by a powerfully courageous warrior.

I don’t know about you, but I’ma need every which-kind of anyway broken anything up out of my system.  As of last year.

Because there is no little bit, no just once, not a big deal with what’s bad for you.

Bad is a raging and ravenous animal that is insatiable and violent, constantly calculating ways to eat you alive… And get you to serve up your friends and loved ones as seconds.

Partnering with that is a really.

Really.

Really.

Bad idea.

The tricky part is if we knew where these broken parts were and how to heal them, we’d have done it already.

So let’s go:

  1. Clear the clutter out of the way: Fast.
  2. Ask for help: Pray.

If there were a rattle in your car you couldn’t identify, you wouldn’t park it in the driveway and watch a show about car repair.  At some point you gotta get under the hood.  You clear it out, and take it to a mechanic to identify the problem and make the necessary repairs.

The spiritual version of parking the car and watching a do-it-yourself show is religiously going to church without fasting and praying constantly.

Fasting isn’t some strange and dangerous celebrity diet.  It’s cleansing, offering and sacrifice.  Our minds and bodies are our own, we can’t forget that and fail to take control over ourselves.  Why shouldn’t we offer up the vessel for our spirit when we need work done?  Choose something, anything whether it’s a habit, food, drink, activity, or even a person, and cut it out until your healing comes.

Praying isn’t some pious religious ritual set aside for priests and fanatics when they’re in quiet time with their eyes closed in temple or church.  We were born to pray, and can every moment.  At some point we get coerced into thinking prayer, our communication with the Creator, isn’t the most valuable part of our makeup.  Everyone hears from God, everyone can talk to Him.  So ask Him to find your brokenness and heal it.  Every single day. Multiple times a day.

We can’t afford to confuse temptation for coercion.  If you know you want things that are bad for you, fast and pray until you’re healed.

There’s far more to life than exhaustion in battle with yourself over wars that have already been won.

Free yourself.

“‘Rather, each person is being tempted whenever he is being dragged off and enticed by the bait of his own desire. 15 Then, having conceived, the desire gives birth to sin; and when sin is fully grown, it gives birth to death. 16 Don’t delude yourselves, my dear brothers.’”

We often view temptation as an external influence that ‘happens upon us.’ In truth temptation is an outward manifestation of a pre-existing desire already INSIDE of us. Our first instinct is to remove whatever it is that is tempting us from our environment. This is no different than watering the leaves to make a plant grow instead of the roots. Some of the water may trickle down the stem and make it into the ground but it is not the most effective way to achieve the goal. The real battle with all temptation takes place inside of us. We must examine the want for whatever it is that tempts us and start from there.

Eliminating objects of temptation from our environment is a means but the end is when we want what God has in store for us more than ANYTHING.

If we have a want for something that is greater than what God has in store for us it is that very want that will kill our walk every time.

We must continue to hold our desires up to what God wants for us and see where our heart truly stands.

We will all be tempted but we do not have to fall.

We can choose to stand by what God wants for us over what we want.

It’s all about faith…”-Ebenezer Quaye

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The beauty of life: Dancing in purpose

9 Nov

This is the scene I woke up to on my 33rd birthday: A simple, elegant, vibrant daisy brilliantly and naturally lit by the morning sun.


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Noise: Let nothing disturb your focus, and nothing force you to struggle.

22 Oct

It’s been noisy recently.  Distractions in all forms pulling and blurring focus.

Yesterday afternoon, determined to continue songwriting, I entered the peace and comfort of our backyard.  Seated in the refreshing autumn air under waning sunlight I drank in clear skies, brilliant blossoms, vibrant new growth in shifting seasons.

Closing my eyes to softly clouded heavens I began to pray.

In came the piercing brackish crack of glass, breaking.  My eyes flew open, staring toward the source of noise, an arrhythmic cacophony of blunted shrieks as the pane was pummeled, shrinking shards.  The grand finale: An abrasive concerto of grinding squeals as the dangerous rubbish was forced across the concrete.

Noise.

I closed my eyes again, picturing the shimmering glitter left behind to glint in the dusk.

The tinny, predictable lilt of a children’s lullaby lumbered by as an ice cream vendor passed on the street.

Noise.

“How am I supposed to write songs in this sonic nightmare,”  I wondered.

Noise.

Noise is all around us:  Things that cause disturbance or interference, particularly disagreeable sounds.

We may find it in our emotions when we become upset; health when we aren’t fully awake or well; entertainment when we actively or passively read, watch or engage in foolishness, or even in the what’s-it-really-gonna-hurt-ness; relationships when we spend time with those who yank us off-course; thinking when we let our mind fall into self-defeating lies about ourselves or others.

Noise is in what we drink that intoxicates us or eat that slows us; where we stand that blocks us, holds us back, or just doesn’t propel us forward; what we do that binds us or sends us backward or sideways.  How we hear, not letting the truth be loudest.  What we say, not letting goodness be shared.

Noise.

Why allow it to disturb your peace, to interfere with your purpose?

When you know who is really in charge, who you are, and what your responsibility is, there should be no space for noise in your life.  

You eliminate noise by:

  • Understanding how unlimited your choices are by remembering always, who is in charge.  In God there is no lack, no weakness, no failure, no confusion, no unwillingness, no inability, no fear.  
  • Thinking about your options with your responsibility in mind.  Your days are not random, unimportant, frivolous, unseen, and never-ending.
  • Choosing what you let in based on who you are.  You are not faceless, anonymous, untalented, unloved, unanticipated, unneeded, unknown, unaware, irresponsible.

With a noisy background, you have to burn precious energy and time to be able to listen to what you wanted to hear.

There will be times when the lesson and growth of enduring, struggling forward is imperative.

There are also times when you apathetically let the noise settle and just keep the volume way up.

Having the volume too high for too long is disorienting:  It drowns out important ambient noise you need to discern your environment and respond accordingly.  It’s damaging: Eventually the tools you’ve been given to listen wither from abuse and you can’t hear anything.

You aren’t meant for confusion or dysfunction.

Allowing noise to exist in your life forces you and everything else to conform to it.  To be molded and formed around something that by definition, is disturbing and interfering.

Why force your life off-cycle by lazily accepting disturbances and interference as background noise?  Why make life harder than it is meant to be?

Just turn it off.

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Self-doubt and thanksgiving: You are never in question.

16 Oct

I’ve been privileged to spend time recently with friends who are an incredible inspiration, the kind of people who defy category and live abundantly in a way that always urges you to be better.

In self-reflection I noticed an interesting, albeit subtle common theme.

No matter how great or wonderful a given area of our lives looks from every perspective, with different lenses, and no matter how enlightened, learned, at peace and equipped we are…

Everyone doubts.  

Everyone gets scared.

Even if it’s just for an instant.

At some point, on some level, we question ourselves.

Never realizing that we aren’t ever in question.  We were made for a purpose, by the highest, most perfect power there is.  He doesn’t make mistakes.

That means…

Every second of every hour of every day, you are absolutely perfect. You are doing your very best, you are at your very best, you are giving it all you’ve got and working as hard as you can to be the best you can.  For you, for those you love, and everyone who may be blessed to witness your life.

You were born perfect.  And every day you’re alive you renew that perfection, with all you are.

No man’s burden is heavier or lighter than another’s.  But certainly, when the lie of self-doubt and fear tries to take hold…

The more responsibility we have, the more blessings, gifts, talents, love and sense of purpose we have…

Not only will that lie threaten you, but because you’re so awesome, you’ll add to it, worrying about how it will threaten those who look to you for leadership, guidance, love, direction, inspiration, parenting, healing and care.

Well.

Rest assured.

It’s a lie.  Everything is perfect, including you, just as you are right now, were before you read this, will be in the next moment and will continue as for the rest of your life.

We know this with unequivocal certainty because we can trust, completely, that nothing is random and there are no coincidences.

This isn’t a case of a poorly qualified, inexperienced, under-resourced, insecure, last-minute, short-sighted, shallow director making an assignment under duress.

You have been placed where you are, with what you have (which is exactly what you need by the way) in every second…

By the baddest, most brilliant, kind, loving, innovative, pure, bleeding-edge creative, perfectly peaceful leader for all time, who not only controls but creates every resource ever known or available to mankind… And whose timing and depth is endless.

So yeah.

Don’t waste any of His precious time whining about whether He made the right choice, which is what we do when we doubt ourselves. He knows exactly what He’s doing.

Next time you fix your mind to doubt, fix it on Him and say,

“Thank you.  I trust you.”

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Truth: Anxiously waiting for a reward isn’t being patient.

12 Oct

I have a puppy.

He’s awesome, spunky, sweet and frisky.  He loves playing in water, snuggling, and being impossibly adorable.  My dad named him Sputnik.  Sputs for short.  In training Sput I’ve accepted some interesting truths:

1) Apparently puppies can never have enough treats.

2) If Sputnik stands to snatch the treat when I tell him, “Sit” he’s not really getting trained.  Just treated.  I have to watch his little Sputnik patootie and only if it stays on the floor, only when he shows he going to go wild for the reward does he get the treat.

I have to force myself to look away from the puppy-dog eyes and remember the goal is for him to be disciplined enough to sit without the treat… Not to do tricks for biscuits.

 

Will seat for treats.

It struck me, we have to learn the same lesson.  How many times have we been so anxious for the reward, our behavior delayed the release of the gift?  How often have we wondered what was causing the delay, what was the lesson we seemed to be missing?

Expecting everything to happen because we are anxious for it, demanding what we want in the moment we want it, refusing to wait past our point of comfort in patience, convenient endurance are symptoms of immaturity and weakness.

Where is the power in that?  How are we supposed to maintain our sureness, peace and continue living in a way that lights the path for others when we’re drooling over the promise of a treat, grumpy because it’s delayed, or depressed because there’s no treat in sight?

If we are truly faithful, obedient, patient we will persevere and endure in spite of circumstance.  When we get that message, learn it fully and grow in maturity and strength…

We might casually notice those pesky situations where it seems like what we want is dragged out forever have magically stopped happening so frequently… Not that we’d care anymore.

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A cautionary tale: Be a responsible steward.

1 Oct

“When we are stressed our emotions and thoughts becomes unhinged and we say things we don’t mean.”- A friend of mine said this recently and it stuck with me.

Of course we strive for the kind of inner peace that is unshakable in the face of all chaos.  We should exert similar effort to find sanctuary in our daily lives.

The reality is, we’re human and no one, certainly not life, is perfect.  I don’t bother feeling guilty about not being perfectly at peace or in a sanctuary all the time.  We have to be on the lookout for when we’re about to, (or just did) say something we didn’t mean, or allow chaos to develop around us.

This weekend began with a wonderful sunset view on the beach Friday evening.  That night, a foul smell crept over the house.  The search for the source was fruitless.  Saturday morning the origin was identified:  The neighbor’s cat had made its way into the basement.  Didn’t make its way out.

A no-show animal disposal appointment, wrinkled noses and several scented candles later, it was time to face the funk.  Literally.  Then began the 3-phased chaos of the day.

Phase I:

POG* and I donned shower caps, hoodies, jeans and tennis shoes, and makeshift gas masks: For him a t-shirt, for me a heavily-perfumed wrap.  Armed with prayer, multiple trash bags, fly spray, prayer, a shovel, bucket, broom, dustpan, bleach, prayer, and disinfecting spray, we descended into the pit of despair.  In prayer.

Phase II:

Let’s just say it was more disgusting than any zombie movie ever was or will be.

Ever.

Compounded by olfactory and visual assault, communication was a mess at best: Keeping our eyes on the prize and hands on the tools, we were limited to verbal communication through mufflers.  We sounded very much like I’d imagine an emergency medic unit would sound in the field.  All urgent, barking, instructional and cooperative at once.

Phase III:  

Several generous pours and sprays of bleach and aggravating scrubs with the broom later, we had effectively turned the basement into a toxic filth vapor bomb.  At one point,  as he swept the runoff toward the sump hole, creating a spatter-pattern only a detective could love, I urged him to aim carefully.  His response?

“My eyes are closed!!!”

Yep.  Bleach pouring in confined spaces.  It’s funny in retrospect but at the time…

Phase IV:  

On the final wash, things are looking cleaner… Until I saw my shiny clean red bucket in the middle of wet floor.  And picked it up and placed it on one of his storage boxes.  New filth entered, in the form of verbal sniping.

I called time-out immediately.  For once, we opted out of the hug-it-out remedy since I couldn’t fathom burying my face in his animal disposal costume.

After some deep breaths of fresh air and a game-plan adjustment, we had to laugh over how easily we dealt with wartime ugliness, thankful we could see it for what it was.

Too often though, what’s rotten isn’t sitting there for you to smell, find and cleanup in an hour with some handy household tools.  Too often, working together to purge filth feels bad, and can appear to be working against each other.  Too often something can be said that isn’t really meant, and offense will run high, hurt deep.

Had funkiness and sarcasm-laden comments been a regular part of home we wouldn’t have known anything was wrong.

We are the stewards of our physical lives, our bodies, our space.  We have to be responsible owners and take regular inventory not only to maintain order and health, but especially so we’ll know when something is out of order.

When we wait until something has become painful, infected, angry, foul or spoiled  we’ve neglected our responsibility far too long.  That neglect is a sign of imbalance and in some cases, can cause irreparable damage to our relationships, our person, or our property.

Physical neglect is both a symptom and cause of  mental and spiritual clutter.  Not a pretty cycle.

Remember to take care of what you’ve been given: Your body, your health, your home, possessions, relationships.  Be vigilant, and when you find yourself neglecting these things take a minute to figure out what’s pulling you from them and refocus.

Grody as it was, I’m thankful for the stark reminder.  Commence attic-to-basement physical and spiritual cleansing spree.

*POG stands for Powerful Man Of God, my love-nugget and best friend (the M is silent.)

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Empowered refusal: If_____, then _____. vs. Is_____, and_____.

5 Sep

Doubt,  mistakes, anger, fear,  judgment, weakness, hatred, confusion, disloyalty, discord, disqualification and unworthiness all come from a mindset of:

If __________,

Then_________.

Love, joy, peace, faith, hope, power, wisdom, strength, hope, excellence, acceptance,  unity and order all come from a mindset of:

Is__________,

And ____________.

We’re here.  We’re alive.  We’re perfect just as we are.  There is no contingency, qualifier, or prerequisite for us to be ready, worthy, or able.  We’re not yesterday’s mistake, last year’s distress, or childhood defeat.  And neither is any one else.

So what qualifies you to say otherwise, and more importantly… What damage is done to ourselves and others when we choose the mindset of fear, doubt, and contingency?  How could we even know what we’ve held back from ourselves or someone else by refusing?

Refusal isn’t always, “No.”  More often we refuse by saying,

“If _____, then.”

The easiest way to win a battle is to keep your enemy from ever showing up to fight.  Battles are over when one side is unable or unwilling to fight.  How often do you not even show up because you refuse, assuming you’re not going to win?

Thinking in a pattern of

If, Then

is refusing to show up for your own life.

Operating from a place of

Is, And

is accepting the fact that as long as you’re breathing, who you are, where you are, and what you have is all you or anyone else needs.  This is your life, it is the right time, everything is ready, all you need is here and, you’ll win.

Be careful not to disqualify yourself or any one else from success.

You never know what fight will be lost as a result of empowered refusal.

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