Being heard: Tapping into the substance that gives truth power.


I don't do New Year's resolutions. Instead, every season, I grapple with a different area where I need change or improvement.  Right now, it's about friendships... More to come later. The last season was about figuring out how to do urgency. I'm a calm, peace-filled, bright and shiny, fun,  logical, God-loving person.  While I fully grasp …

Reflection: What do you block yourself from receiving because of how you feel about the giver?


This past weekend Pog* and I went suit-shopping.  I got creative with my suggestions, he loved them, and left happy and surprised by his choices.  Monday, I tried on a ring received as a gift years ago, that I'd never worn.  When I asked his input he encouraged me to wear it, I agreed, and …

Natural order: Getting your life together.


All my life I've loved to put things in order.  I naturally arrange objects in forms of symmetry, choose complementary colors, nonchalantly clean and organize, and set scenes of beauty constantly. Recently I let things slip so far out of balance my home was a mess.  Yesterday, after a music-fueled maniacal cleaning session that lasted …

Life in 2012: How do you change the world when so much is going wrong?


The problems we face are enormous.   Trayvon Martin, Salecia Johnson and J'aiesha Scott, Shaima Alawadi, Jose Guerena, Brisinia & Raul Flores, David Kao, Vincent Jen Chin, Caylee Anthony, JonBenet Ramsey, Emmett Till. The problems we face are institutional. Law Enforcement Education Religion Environment Slavery The problems we face are global. Politics Economy Food Water The problems are so huge, sometimes we wonder what we're …

Choose who you like carefully: You become like them.


I heard a line yesterday that stirred me: "Do you really want to be like him?" The question was posed in the context of a budding romantic relationship and was so simple. When we choose to be intimately involved with someone as a friend or life companion, we have to choose carefully. Too often, because …

Free time


Not having a commitment in place is unscheduled time. Not having value in place is free time.All too often, we confuse the meaning of free time with unscheduled time, and fill it with worthless pursuits. Every hour, minute, second of our lives are precious. We can keep unscheduled time purposeful by doing two things:1. Think …