Men: Real, grown-up superheroes.


I'm a 32 year-old woman surrounded by real men: My father and grandfather, best friend, brothers, friends and colleagues at work, home, church and life. Beyond our very different individual relationships, they all have one thing in common: They protect me. So here I stand, a petite woman only 5 feet tall and backed by …

Remaining hope-filled: If it’s not good, it ain’t over yet.


This weekend, while absently allowing an advertisement to play, I heard a powerful quote: "It's always good in the end.  So if it isn't good, it isn't the end yet." On Sunday May 27th, I listened to a friend of mine sing, tears springing forth as I listened to him pour out with passion and …

The structure of a purpose-filled relationship


This interesting read reminded me of how important purpose-filled relationships are in life.  A purpose-filled relationship is like standing on a diamond, rock-hard foundation, as one of two firm pillars of support under a beautiful, crystal vessel filled with the substance of life. You see what's above, and it's worth the effort. You don't worry about …

Scrimps: Choose to find the good in everything.


Yesterday I shared fruit from my grapefruit tree with my overzealous young neighbors. This morning I read a budget at work that referred to scrimps. Last night, a stranger explained that the real depth and beauty of salsa lies in everything done between the major downbeats... A lot like life, isn't it? It would have …

Choosing wisely, cherishing fully: What will you see when you look back on your life?


For mother's day weekend I visited a dear friend who's expecting her first born.  We celebrated with four generations of mothers, and the time spent was a valuable reminder of how precious time is: How important it is to be present, fully present in every moment. Near the end of the trip, my friend shared …

Light musings on Obama and religious outcry…


During election season especially, American news media is like a Gossip Girl meets American Idol marathon.  Typically quiet viewers become reactive, violently opinionated, and hyper-engaged... Via social-media.  I learned to correct a dangerous flaw of mine recently.  I used to be cynical, judging fickle and uneducated voters, inconsistent and pandering politicians, and shallow, profit-driven news …

On Health: Be the best-looking you, ever.


Recently there's been a flurry of activity about a health-related article posted in the New York Times.  As I watch people I love struggle with their health and looks daily, sometimes winning and other times losing, I couldn't be a silent onlooker. At 32, I'm a healthy, active black woman at peace with who I am yet …