Communication toolkit: Take it everywhere you go.


I've a very simple definition of effective communication:  An exchange between two or more folks where everyone understands and is understood.  I've also an acute awareness of the impact effective communication can have.  This is why being cussed out, encouraged, or whispered sweet nothings to, leaves you feeling some kind of way...  Every time. Never, …

Five-year-old moments: Asking for stuff you have.


My mom once told me, be mindful of the messages the universe is trying to send you.  'Cause it'll keep sending them, louder and louder until you get them. The message coming through loud and clear is that I'm doing way too much five-year-old asking. You know, where the kid stares at you expectantly with …

Just when you think it doesn’t get any better…


What a morning.  What a day. It's not even noon and it's been wildly eventful.  Hopefully a little trip down my memory lane will add some perspective, inspiration even as you go about your day. Every year, on this date, when the love of my life asked me to be his, it's like the universe …

True encouragement


Yesterday I wrote a letter to a writer, who responded with a respectful, thoughtful, introspective, very honest and well-written letter, which I found encouraging. We don't agree fully nor was that the intent. From the comments that followed his response I extracted even more encouragement through criticisms offered. Now. To be fair, to say many …

An Open Letter encouraging “Very Smart Brothas” writer Panama Jackson


Dear Panama, This may seem way left field but please read with an open mind. A couple months ago, I had a disturbing dream. A very young girl under the influence of a toxic substance aggressively paraded her sexuality in a way that perverted the mind of everyone around.  Stunned at first, I finally moved, …

The load test: Don’t cheat yourself with delusions about happy endings


One night my best friend and I were watching a really great kung fu movie, Curse of the Golden Flower.  The movie ending was abrupt, anti-climactic, irresolute and inconclusive.  It left us with no sense of reconciliation, optimism, perseverance, or any of those other happy-ending feelings so typical of most movies. As the ending approached, …