Temptation ain’t coercion. If you’re tempted it’s because there was a desire inside you for it in the first place.


Recently I shared about the enemy within, and how dangerous it is to live in denial. It's a weak, disadvantaged position to deny and confuse what temptation really is, and approach it as though we're helplessly forced into something we want no part of... Instead of masterfully commanding our lives like the rulers of the …

Who’s your Daddy: Identity, value and self-worth.


I shared some relationship tips recently, including how to identify and deal with your worst enemy. Today is about self-worth, particularly for men, as the world seems hell-bent on convincing y'all your self-worth is defined by net worth.  Ladies meanwhile, are being convinced we're defined by our bed-worth or sexuality, but that's another discussion for another …

The enemy within: Check yo’self before you wreck yo’self.


I wrote a handy list of relationship tips recently,  and am going deeper on one of them today: Know the God- given roles for people in your life and respect His authority.   Much has been written about how people are in our lives for a reason, to play a specific role.  Encouragement is offered, and …

For the men: Relationship advice and affirmations fit for a king.


In today's world of hurting and imperfect people, far, far too much time is spent feeding lies about men.  About women too, but that's another discussion.  Today, even as I thank God to be with the most amazing man I've ever known, the reality is my hurts and imperfections used to keep me from affirming …

Don’t curse your blessings: Mastering your mind and body for freedom’s sake


I've been battling a persistently annoying less-than-perfect-health situation for a couple months now.  It began as symptom-free general yuckiness and descended into a week of full-blown sick, then cleared 70% of the way up.  Now, it refuses to go away fully because sickness (unlike its carrier) thrives in sleeplessness and uncharacteristically inclement weather. I'm not …

Empowering choice with affirmation: Accept only who and what affirms your best you.


Most of us spend too much of our lives surrounded by stuff we don't feel we can really choose for ourselves.  Partly because we feel forced to choose from a limited selection among family, school, friends, work, or church. When we finally reach a place where we recognize our decisions are truly our own, options …

Truth Unchained: Lies and Django Bound


I've followed the discussion surrounding Django Unchained and yesterday, read a Tavis Smiley interview that pretty much summed up my thinking about the movie: "I don’t know what’s inside Tarantino’s heart; what I do know is what’s inside his head, because that’s what we see on film. If what’s inside his head is connected to …