Who’s your Daddy: Identity, value and self-worth.


I shared some relationship tips recently, including how to identify and deal with your worst enemy. Today is about self-worth, particularly for men, as the world seems hell-bent on convincing y'all your self-worth is defined by net worth.  Ladies meanwhile, are being convinced we're defined by our bed-worth or sexuality, but that's another discussion for another …

The enemy within: Check yo’self before you wreck yo’self.


I wrote a handy list of relationship tips recently,  and am going deeper on one of them today: Know the God- given roles for people in your life and respect His authority.   Much has been written about how people are in our lives for a reason, to play a specific role.  Encouragement is offered, and …

If you were ready to be married, you would be.


I'm fascinated by the intensity of the unmarried population's marriage outlook these days.  It seems to range from I have a wedding dress (or ring) all picked out... To half of marriages end in divorce, all men will cheat and all women will hurt you, so what's so bad about polygamy anyway? Having been in …

Gifted part 2: Honoring men who embrace and share their gifts.


Over the weekend, some girlfriends and I had a stirring conversation about authority, and how differently we communicate when we embrace authority.  We also acknowledged how intimidating it can be to know the awesome responsibility that comes with it. As I continue the never-ending journey of self-discovery, there are several awe-inspiring, beautiful souls who motivate …

Men: Real, grown-up superheroes.


I'm a 32 year-old woman surrounded by real men: My father and grandfather, best friend, brothers, friends and colleagues at work, home, church and life. Beyond our very different individual relationships, they all have one thing in common: They protect me. So here I stand, a petite woman only 5 feet tall and backed by …

Choose Love


You've probably heard the sad tales of ridiculous superhuman standards and the multitudes of single humans wookin' pa nub in all the wrong places because of them.  And for the record, I abhor this tendency and am quite aware that even those of us who think we're looking for the right things, sometimes aren't.  I …

How to REALLY get (and keep) the love of your life..


Years ago, I was single.  And I got some really perfect advice about avoiding the hotmessdedness that is the inevitable outcome of  the single-and-looking process. I was told to be careful what I wished for. At the time, I asked myself: Do you really want to meet more people or do you want to rediscover …