Temptation ain’t coercion. If you’re tempted it’s because there was a desire inside you for it in the first place.


Recently I shared about the enemy within, and how dangerous it is to live in denial. It's a weak, disadvantaged position to deny and confuse what temptation really is, and approach it as though we're helplessly forced into something we want no part of... Instead of masterfully commanding our lives like the rulers of the …

Who’s your Daddy: Identity, value and self-worth.


I shared some relationship tips recently, including how to identify and deal with your worst enemy. Today is about self-worth, particularly for men, as the world seems hell-bent on convincing y'all your self-worth is defined by net worth.  Ladies meanwhile, are being convinced we're defined by our bed-worth or sexuality, but that's another discussion for another …

The enemy within: Check yo’self before you wreck yo’self.


I wrote a handy list of relationship tips recently,  and am going deeper on one of them today: Know the God- given roles for people in your life and respect His authority.   Much has been written about how people are in our lives for a reason, to play a specific role.  Encouragement is offered, and …

Empowering choice with affirmation: Accept only who and what affirms your best you.


Most of us spend too much of our lives surrounded by stuff we don't feel we can really choose for ourselves.  Partly because we feel forced to choose from a limited selection among family, school, friends, work, or church. When we finally reach a place where we recognize our decisions are truly our own, options …

Ready or not: Yes, it’s a big deal and yes, they chose right. Truthfully honor and respond when you are called to do something big.


Funny thing the way the mind works. You can have limited thinking, and limited ideas, yet be way excited about them, because you literally have no idea how small they are. Or, you can open your mind up, and all of a sudden feel completely surrendered and trusting. You have unlimited thoughts, unlimited ideas, and …

Moving forward into 2013: Endure, advance and achieve by following surely at the right pace.


Last week a colleague commented on a jogger passing by: "She's about finished with her run."  He could tell by her posture and breathing that she was worn out.  She could no longer endure.    I remarked that when a runner is pacing themselves for distance, their breathing is even and step relaxed yet energetic …

The Deep: Great ships need fathomless depths for support.


2012 feels like a great fight scene in an action film: Suspenseful anticipation followed by super-fast, ridiculously impossible athletic feats that defy the laws of physics and the street. And just when you think you know what to expect, slow motion kicks in and everything ramps up.  You watch transfixed and excited, rooting for whoever …

Rationing goodness: Don’t let your flaws and fears stop you from stepping up.


Life isn't apparently good all the time. The people, situations, thoughts and circumstances presented to us are often not only unideal, uncomfortable, or not preferred... They can be downright bad, meaning to cause us hurt, reveling in the possibility. When we discern this, in recognizing and understanding it, we face a danger different than we …