Identity crisis


"I think we're both too worried about what each other wants." As I said it, with a tight-lipped smile to cover the closeness of what I'd uttered, it wasn't clear until much later why words I've only ever said to the love of my life passed my lips with this man.   A man who …

Mind renewal: Living above the law, because love never fails. Love is love.


When certain political issues rise, judgment and confusion roar.  Particularly in my little slice of the world, because I'm blessed to love and be loved by a lot of powerfully vocal and passionate folks.  So when presidential campaigns loom, or media focuses on abortion, capital punishment, poverty, civil rights, same-sex marriage, or religious freedoms...  Like …

Habitual Thinking: A fruitful mind feeds on fruit.


An old(ish) Adam Sandler movie, of all things, got me inspired to write about: Habitual thinking and how life-changing it can be to simply change the way you think;  How important rest is; How rest influences what we do when we're not resting. Now it's time for practical steps. Trust me, everyone needs to change their thinking habits. …

Never alone: Always in love.


Romance begins with you. Love on yourself today and everyday, so your relationship reflects healing and wholeness now and in the future. Relationships are not two people completing each other.  They are two hearts reflecting two spirits, enhanced.  So the condition of your spirit is magnified. If it isn't right alone, it will just be …

Temptation ain’t coercion. If you’re tempted it’s because there was a desire inside you for it in the first place.


Recently I shared about the enemy within, and how dangerous it is to live in denial. It's a weak, disadvantaged position to deny and confuse what temptation really is, and approach it as though we're helplessly forced into something we want no part of... Instead of masterfully commanding our lives like the rulers of the …

Empowering choice with affirmation: Accept only who and what affirms your best you.


Most of us spend too much of our lives surrounded by stuff we don't feel we can really choose for ourselves.  Partly because we feel forced to choose from a limited selection among family, school, friends, work, or church. When we finally reach a place where we recognize our decisions are truly our own, options …

21 Ways to grow and share true love.


You woke up this morning, which means there are at least three people who need you to actively show love instead of passively living. You, the person whose life you've impacted without realizing it, and the person they impact without realizing it. Easy ways to show love: 1. Say it. 2. Mean it. 3. Share …

The Deep: Great ships need fathomless depths for support.


2012 feels like a great fight scene in an action film: Suspenseful anticipation followed by super-fast, ridiculously impossible athletic feats that defy the laws of physics and the street. And just when you think you know what to expect, slow motion kicks in and everything ramps up.  You watch transfixed and excited, rooting for whoever …