The Substance of style: How to be an Olympic Gladiator in a suit


When I was a little girl I knew I was an artist, singer, and fashion designer early on.  Cartooning, a heavy vibrato, and obsessive development of my crayon-infused design portfolio were dead giveaways. Growing up in a family of activists in an impoverished community left little room for me to explore and embrace the depths …

The Substance of Style: Shopping tips


Style matters.  It's another way to communicate. Don't believe me? Think about the most ridiculous outfit you've ever seen.  Imagine the POTUS wearing it while delivering the State of the Union address. Style communicates.  Style matters. We owe it to ourselves to demonstrate care and concern for how we express ourselves. It's not easy to …

The substance of style: Wardrobe basics


I worked at a clothing store during my multiple-job phase in college, and am glad I can look back fondly on those (ahem) unique work moments and lessons. Por ejemplo. Work moment: Greeting folks with a cheerful, excited grin led to apologies from confused customers. Lesson: Genuine joy in shopping malls is completely disarming. Work …

The substance of style: Clothing etiquette


Talking about looking good, meaning: Healthy, well-groomed, appropriate, intentional, comfortable, and expressively, uniquely, you continues today with more encouragement and some helpful guidelines. I'd like to think like all art, fashion is one that isn't always about convention or rules.  That said, some things work and others just don't. Here are some rules to follow when it comes …

Expressing yourself in style: Part II


In the same way what we say matters, how we look matters. Both are outward reflections of spirit. Our aesthetic goal should be to focus on looking good, meaning: Healthy, well-groomed, appropriate, intentional, comfortable, and expressively, uniquely, you.  That's really all a sense of style is: Being intentionally, comfortably, expressively, and uniquely you.   Of …

Expressing yourself in style


Don't believe the lie that looks don't matter. They do.  People, art, fashion, natural wonders... Aesthetics, the way we look matters.  Appearance is a powerful and meaningful tool you should master and wield responsibly. But. Don't believe the lie that when it comes to looks, a specific standard of beauty matters.  It doesn't.  There is …

Reflection: What do you block yourself from receiving because of how you feel about the giver?


This past weekend Pog* and I went suit-shopping.  I got creative with my suggestions, he loved them, and left happy and surprised by his choices.  Monday, I tried on a ring received as a gift years ago, that I'd never worn.  When I asked his input he encouraged me to wear it, I agreed, and …