Identity crisis


"I think we're both too worried about what each other wants." As I said it, with a tight-lipped smile to cover the closeness of what I'd uttered, it wasn't clear until much later why words I've only ever said to the love of my life passed my lips with this man.   A man who …

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Who’s your Daddy: Identity, value and self-worth.


I shared some relationship tips recently, including how to identify and deal with your worst enemy. Today is about self-worth, particularly for men, as the world seems hell-bent on convincing y'all your self-worth is defined by net worth.  Ladies meanwhile, are being convinced we're defined by our bed-worth or sexuality, but that's another discussion for another …

The enemy within: Check yo’self before you wreck yo’self.


I wrote a handy list of relationship tips recently,  and am going deeper on one of them today: Know the God- given roles for people in your life and respect His authority.   Much has been written about how people are in our lives for a reason, to play a specific role.  Encouragement is offered, and …

True encouragement


Yesterday I wrote a letter to a writer, who responded with a respectful, thoughtful, introspective, very honest and well-written letter, which I found encouraging. We don't agree fully nor was that the intent. From the comments that followed his response I extracted even more encouragement through criticisms offered. Now. To be fair, to say many …

Smeagol or Gollum: 5 Steps to overcome self-doubt.


I recently, finally, watched The Lord of the Rings Trilogy and was struck by the symbolism of the tormented character of Smeagol and Gollum.  Physically, mentally, and spiritually this is a man who gave in once to darkness, became addicted to it, and wasted away, his very identity shattered in a desperate attempt to protect …