Just when you think it doesn’t get any better…


What a morning.  What a day. It's not even noon and it's been wildly eventful.  Hopefully a little trip down my memory lane will add some perspective, inspiration even as you go about your day. Every year, on this date, when the love of my life asked me to be his, it's like the universe …

The load test: Don’t cheat yourself with delusions about happy endings


One night my best friend and I were watching a really great kung fu movie, Curse of the Golden Flower.  The movie ending was abrupt, anti-climactic, irresolute and inconclusive.  It left us with no sense of reconciliation, optimism, perseverance, or any of those other happy-ending feelings so typical of most movies. As the ending approached, …

The Substance of style: How to be an Olympic Gladiator in a suit


When I was a little girl I knew I was an artist, singer, and fashion designer early on.  Cartooning, a heavy vibrato, and obsessive development of my crayon-infused design portfolio were dead giveaways. Growing up in a family of activists in an impoverished community left little room for me to explore and embrace the depths …