Staying grounded and effective when dealing with daily crises


Thank you in advance for your precious time, I hope these words are helpful. Our circumstances are building enormous pressure right now: Global Pandemic. Growing poverty and unemployment. National Election. Race-driven murder. Unbearable tension between law enforcement officers and civilians. Riots. We need to take care of ourselves without avoiding reality. I've lived and worked …

Receiving: How to fix pain, forgive and forget.


Sigh.  Last week at work, a stray had several kittens and abandoned three of them.  There was no way I was going to leave them to die.  So, I strapped up with baby formula, heating pad and oral syringe.  For hours, I nursed and cuddled, checking warmth. The first night one of them passed away. …

The load test: Don’t cheat yourself with delusions about happy endings


One night my best friend and I were watching a really great kung fu movie, Curse of the Golden Flower.  The movie ending was abrupt, anti-climactic, irresolute and inconclusive.  It left us with no sense of reconciliation, optimism, perseverance, or any of those other happy-ending feelings so typical of most movies. As the ending approached, …