Self-doubt and thanksgiving: You are never in question.


I've been privileged to spend time recently with friends who are an incredible inspiration, the kind of people who defy category and live abundantly in a way that always urges you to be better. In self-reflection I noticed an interesting, albeit subtle common theme. No matter how great or wonderful a given area of our …

The load test: Don’t cheat yourself with delusions about happy endings


One night my best friend and I were watching a really great kung fu movie, Curse of the Golden Flower.  The movie ending was abrupt, anti-climactic, irresolute and inconclusive.  It left us with no sense of reconciliation, optimism, perseverance, or any of those other happy-ending feelings so typical of most movies. As the ending approached, …

Empowered refusal: If_____, then _____. vs. Is_____, and_____.


Doubt,  mistakes, anger, fear,  judgment, weakness, hatred, confusion, disloyalty, discord, disqualification and unworthiness all come from a mindset of: If __________, Then_________. Love, joy, peace, faith, hope, power, wisdom, strength, hope, excellence, acceptance,  unity and order all come from a mindset of: Is__________, And ____________. We're here.  We're alive.  We're perfect just as we are.  There is no contingency, qualifier, …