The load test: Don’t cheat yourself with delusions about happy endings


One night my best friend and I were watching a really great kung fu movie, Curse of the Golden Flower.  The movie ending was abrupt, anti-climactic, irresolute and inconclusive.  It left us with no sense of reconciliation, optimism, perseverance, or any of those other happy-ending feelings so typical of most movies. As the ending approached, …

Empowered refusal: If_____, then _____. vs. Is_____, and_____.


Doubt,  mistakes, anger, fear,  judgment, weakness, hatred, confusion, disloyalty, discord, disqualification and unworthiness all come from a mindset of: If __________, Then_________. Love, joy, peace, faith, hope, power, wisdom, strength, hope, excellence, acceptance,  unity and order all come from a mindset of: Is__________, And ____________. We're here.  We're alive.  We're perfect just as we are.  There is no contingency, qualifier, …

Can’t vs. Won’t: Where ability and willingness collide to create roadblocks.


Constant self-development is a fascinating feature.  Every moment you find yourself uncovering something new and different... And when that isn't happening, you find yourself wondering, "Why not?" That's the question. What's stopping you?   At what point did you get bound up, blindfolded, gagged, deafened, starved, hobbled, isolated and disoriented to the point where you …